Relationship advice (serious answers only please)?

My bf %26amp; I have been together abt 9 months. It's very serious. However, he hasn't met my family yet %26amp; doesn't seem too interested in doing so.





He's not very social with his own family %26amp; he's very nervous about the whole thing (especially Dad). Recently, 2 occasions have come up: my half-sis's graduation %26amp; a 3-day camping trip in June. My sister %26amp; I aren't very close so I understood him not wanting to go. But my family %26amp; I ARE very close so the camping trip is a big thing.





He seemed very nervous that the whole family would be together camping (abt 23 people) so I've just let it slide w/ "I don't really like to camp."





The thing is, meeting my whole family at once is about the only option we have with the exception of Mom %26amp; Dad b/c our family only gets together as a group.





How can I ease his mind about meeting my family? How long should I be willing to let him put it off? It's a 5 hour drive home so it's not like we can just pop in for dinner. Suggestions please!!!!

Relationship advice (serious answers only please)?
How is he ever going to get to know the family if he don't at least go to meet them. He has put off all the other meetings with the family. The best way to meet them is all at once. It would be a lot worse if he was going to meet just one or two here and there, I mean they are right there all together and no where to go and it could make him a little uneasy. But the whole family together would be a little easier I would think. At least you could walk around and mingle with every one. Everybody is always nervous when meeting their mates family members, that is normal. Tell him to just get his feet wet, he will feel better once he meets the family!
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Reply:i think it would be a good thing for him to meet all the family at once becuse,then he would make some new friends and just mabe he might allready know some of them and don't even know it? anyways..if you 2 do this...have a great time and have fun showing your b/f off to your family..hehe..
Reply:don't give up what you like to do for him. If you like to camp out with your family, then go.





maybe he can meet a few of them before the trip. trying to keep him from ever meeting your family because he's antisocial is not realistic. Sounds like you're pretty social so maybe he's not the right one for you after all.


go without him if he can't make it.
Reply:His family background probably has a lot to do with it plus he knows he will be "inspected" so to speak. To meet your entire family at once can be a little overwhelming. Just trying to remember everyones names would be a chore. I would try to ease him into it by first meeting your parents by preplanning the occasion. Just try and remember some of us do well in crowds and some of us don't.
Reply:ease him into it with mom and dad first then the rest of the family don't push though
Reply:dont be the bad family news person. let him feel what you feel.
Reply:make him do it! you are the woman, you are supposed to nag until he just caves in...
Reply:I read somewhere that you shouldn't have it be a big group meeting with all of them there at once. That is vey intimidating. Start small. go for a weekend away together, stay in a hotel, meet somewhere for dinner and then if you want to spend more time with your family, he can go back to the hotel. Simply tell the family that he wanted you to have alone time together with your family. Or tell them the truth, it is scarier meeting a new family all at once and he feels uncomfortable because your relationship means so much to him.
Reply:Show up a day or two early and let him get to know your family one at a time. Introduce him to a couple of people that he might click with so that he will have a friend before you all go camping.
Reply:by him not being close with his family of course he going to be a little uneasy about meeting yours and trust me I know this for a fact when you are with someone that is not close with their family and you are it starts jealousy issues. When the time is right then take him to meet the family but not all at once that can be kinda scary.
Reply:theres really no need for him to meet your fam unless your going to marry him.
Reply:ease his mind by telling him yor family is funny down to earth and laid bach and let him take his time if he's not a big family he'll need more time than a big "family is all we have" guy.
Reply:He isn't close to his own family so the thought of meeting yours is terrifying. I myself am not close to my own family (not because I don't want to be). It is difficult for anyone to meet the (GF/BF's parents/family) but its even worse for someone who didn't come from a well rounded family. It sounds like you and your family are extremely close and this is probably very scary for him. You can't just throw him into your entire family. He would freak. You need to introduce him to only a few memebers at a time. Let him get used to them and adjust to them,then when he is ready (and don't be afraid to ask him when he is comfortable) then introduce more. He isn't social and he probably has some emotional baggage from not being close with his own family. He would be extremely uncomfortable and extremely intimidated if he meet the whole group at one time. I say this b/c I've lived it. I'm extremely social and a people person, and the thought of meeting knew people excites me, but when its meeting an entire family I get anxious and nervous and extremely uncomfortable. You gonna want to ease him into it. I hope this helps.