I need help, I'm so confused?

I met J. the first day of the college semester and we became instant friends. We found out that we are alot alike, with the exception of a few things. We hang out almost every day and the days we don't hang out, we talk on the phone.





One day in another class a mutual friend of ours. H., told me that J. told her that he liked me and wanted to date me. H. had then asked me if I liked J. and I told her that I did.





A week later while hanging out with J. my friend C. had called me and asked what I was up to. I told C. that I was hanging out with J. and he said he would leave me to my date. J. saw this and asked me if I thought that was a date. I told him that I didn't. He then asked if I wanted it to be a date and I told him I didn't care. He then asked me if I liked him and I said that I did. He then told me how two of his friends, who I have met and got along with, kept bugging him to ask me out but he was too indecisive. He then got up and sat really close to me. We flirted off and

I need help, I'm so confused?
On one hand after going out of a bad relationship and having a son he would not want to go dating again anytime soon but on the another hand he has fallen for you... badly and wanted you to stay with him.





Rushing him to ask you out is not the best thing as this can push him away. What you are doing now is the right way... slow and easy.





Eventually as time passes he will ask you out just be patient. He needs a close friend more right now... someone who cares and understand. ^_^
Reply:omg this is the longest question ever.i dont think he likes u because u r too available
Reply:it sounds like you guys are really close friends and he probably does like you, but doesn't want to ruin things between you guys. that's awesome that hes a great father to his son, and i hope things will work out for the best for you guys. happy holidays. ^-^
Reply:I don't see much future in this as a serious relationship; but....... we'll see. He thinks he would be wise to not get into another relshp too soon after breaking up with the mother of his son. He learned some hard lessons.





As for you, I agree with the person above, you are too open about personal things (you shouldn't have told him you'd never had a b/f before. Yes, you're too available. You shouldn't just take "crumbs." You're laying yourself wide open if he should want to take advantage of you. Not that he would, tho. You need to have some mystery about yourself, hon.
Reply:It sounds to me like this guy is just playing with you. He is obviously scared to get to close because of his past failed relationship and what that produced. He sounds very immature. You should be dating guys who are mature, aren't playing games, are available and don't have baggage at such a young age. Of course, the grandmother of his child would be bitter toward you. She is probably resentful that he got her daughter pregnant but was not man enough to marry her. You write well and sound intelligent, I think you could do better.