This is really long but I need help, I'm so confused?

I met J. the first day of the college semester and we became instant friends. We found out that we are alot alike, with the exception of a few things. We hang out almost every day and the days we don't hang out, we talk on the phone.





One day in another class a mutual friend of ours. H., told me that J. told her that he liked me and wanted to date me. H. had then asked me if I liked J. and I told her that I did.





A week later while hanging out with J. my friend C. had called me and asked what I was up to. I told C. that I was hanging out with J. and he said he would leave me to my date. J. saw this and asked me if I thought that was a date. I told him that I didn't. He then asked if I wanted it to be a date and I told him I didn't care. He then asked me if I liked him and I said that I did. He then told me how two of his friends, who I have met and got along with, kept bugging him to ask me out but he was too indecisive.

This is really long but I need help, I'm so confused?
For starters it's time to leave 'everybody' else out of this equation. They should not be influencing this potential relationship. Secondly, if you are getting a lot of 'input' from others you can bet he is too. I realize you can't control what comes out of peoples mouths, but you both would be wise to shrug it off.





It's time for you to make a move. Ask him if he likes you. Ask him if he wants a relationship. Ask him why he is hesitant (if that's the case). Step up and get answers.! You can do this!!!
Reply:He sounds a bit immature! Maybe he is not ready for a relationship!! GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:Ok I dont want to be mean here but i want to be completely honest. it sounds like he thinks of you more as a friend but is being pushed into a relationship with you or is thinking that he should be with you because of what everyone else is saying. if he wanted to be with you he would, simple as that. he knows how you feel. or it may just be that hes trying to figure out exactly how he feels. give him a bit of time, but dont wait forever.
Reply:he likes you alot and would love to go on a date with you but he is unshire of how you feel about him and girl-guy stuff and cant bring him salf to ask you deriectly but if you ask me hes olredy asked you in his way.!
Reply:Hey there. Your story is really interesting.


there are guys that are really slow or too shy to make the first move, so sometimes the girl is the one who asks the guy out. If you really like this guy, confront him and ask him out! i know it sound weird but nothing's gonna happen if neither of you makes a move, right? I hope this helps. God Bless!
Reply:sounds like he is afraid of loosing a really great friend. this may take time - you should be patient. if you are friends for years and date others in the mean time, would that be bad. he may come around if you do date someone else. not to say that you should ever use that as a weapon to get him to come around, but if it happens, great. since he hasn't asked you out, keep your options open. good luck.
Reply:It's probably just awkwardness and maybe some left over baggage/ feelings for his ex -(you said he has a kid) or concern for you since you are realtively inexperienced.


I also am a single dad and I feel kind of reluctant to start anything after being put through the emotional wringer especially if I'm being asked about it all the time.


I would say relax, you already let him know how you feel, and let nature take it's course. I hope it works out for you.
Reply:Alright, this guy is very confusing and it is never good to enter a relationship when niether of you know when it started. If I were you I would confront him. You should probably do this in person (although I always found it easier over email, msn, txt ,messaging, or phone). be very straight forward.


tell him " I am very confused with all of this and you and I both know of the things that have been going around and what people are saying. You have asked me a multiple number of times if I liked you and I have said yes. Do you like me? Are we more than friends? and if we are simply just friends then I'd be glad that everything is cleared up, and I can move on."





If he says he likes you and you guys kick it off then woohooo!


But if he only wants to be friends then try to not see him as much so you can get over him and things won't be as awkward. The awkwardness eventually will be gone. I dated a guy for 2 years and I can now hangout with him as a friend with out any uneasiness.





So just go for it!
Reply:i think he does like u and the only reason he hasnt ask u out yet is he is trying to find the right time and place for that question dont feel bad about it he will ask u when the time is right