This is long but I need help, I'm so confused?

I met J. the first day of the college semester and we became instant friends. We found out that we are alot alike, with the exception of a few things. We hang out almost every day and the days we don't hang out, we talk on the phone.





One day in another class a mutual friend of ours. H., told me that J. told her that he liked me and wanted to date me. H. had then asked me if I liked J. and I told her that I did.





A week later while hanging out with J. my friend C. had called me and asked what I was up to. I told C. that I was hanging out with J. and he said he would leave me to my date. J. saw this and asked me if I thought that was a date. I told him that I didn't. He then asked if I wanted it to be a date and I told him I didn't care. He then asked me if I liked him and I said that I did. He then told me how two of his friends, who I have met and got along with, kept bugging him to ask me out but he was too indecisive. He then got up and sat really close to me. We flirted off

This is long but I need help, I'm so confused?
Seems like a really weird situation.





If he likes you, and he knows you like him, he should ask you out.





Maybe next he asks you if you like him, tell him the normal answer, and then ask him right back... do you like me?





Then why are we just friends





but i must say- if you have never had a boyfriend... and he already has a baby---- i would just leave it as a friendship.





everyone always wants a boyfriend when they have never had one, but once you have one, after a few months, it just seems like you have to take care of yourself plus another person.





you are too young to be with someone who already has a baby.





be young, have fun, and enjoy college.





you can always settle down later.
Reply:Over 3 months and no date? I'd say no, he doesn't want to date you.


He gets to spend as much time with you as he chooses, and he doesn't have to commit or to do anything. You are keeping him safe from making another baby though. Where is this child's mother and how do you and she get along?


He gets to monopolize all your spare time without doing anything but being casual friends, and you get nothing in return.


According to your question - you help him clean his room, you help his mother, you are probably helping with his son, not sure who the shopping was for - you don't mention one thing that he does for you or satisfaction you are deriving from this friendship.


You don't want to graduate from college after spending 4 years baby sitting someone else's child for your whole college experience and only having hung out with J.


As long as you keep up this extensive "hanging out" no one else is going to ask you out as I'm sure everyone else assumes you and J are serious.


Good luck to you. Enjoy your college years.
Reply:Be up front and just break the ice talk talk talk to J
Reply:Sounds like both and that's hard to find. To have someone care that much who is also a very good friend...I'll trade ya! :)
Reply:Wow.... felt like I was doing homework there for a second. YES!!! He likes you. Stop questioning, stop overthinking. Just kiss the guy already. If it's not what he wants he'll say so and you can still be friends... but I'm sure it's what he wants.
Reply:Wow! That was very long lol...But I think you should bring up...let me know that your not trying to rush things you just want to know....It could be just a close friendship thing and then again he could really like you and just want to take things slow....But I sure if he likes you things will work out fine just give it some time....But if this just continues and he doesn't say anything then maybe like I said before it could just be a close friendship thing

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