This is long, but I need answers?

I met J. the first day of the college semester and we became instant friends. We found out that we are alot alike, with the exception of a few things. We hang out almost every day and the days we don't hang out, we talk on the phone.





One day in another class a mutual friend of ours. H., told me that J. told her that he liked me and wanted to date me. H. had then asked me if I liked J. and I told her that I did.





A week later while hanging out with J. my friend C. had called me and asked what I was up to. I told C. that I was hanging out with J. and he said he would leave me to my date. J. saw this and asked me if I thought that was a date. I told him that I didn't. He then asked if I wanted it to be a date and I told him I didn't care. He then asked me if I liked him and I said that I did. He then told me how two of his friends, who I have met and got along with, kept bugging him to ask me out but he was too indecisive. He then got up and sat really close to me. We flirted off

This is long, but I need answers?
Hello.


Wow that is long, but I read it all.


Keep this in mind- he has a child. This means at some time he also had a mate. The 2 of them had a relationship. I assume 'she' is no longer around. Why?


As a male myself, I think he may like you, although kind of immaturly. You have done well to help out his mom,etc. I'm also a father. I once even dated (before my wife and kids existed) a girl who had a child, but no husband. This is where I'll write the 'ugly' stuff, you probably won't like, but prolly need to hear.


She and I had an awesome few months! Turns out the girl was still trying to get re-involved with the father of her child. Stomp on my heart. I was being compared to the father of the kid, but not being accepted simply for me. Who needs THAT?


The questions you need to start asking yourself now;


How 'involved' are you with him?, How long ago did the mother disappear and the reason(s) for it. How involved is he with that ex? These are completely fair questions to ask if you seek a relationship. Ask that bevvy of friends if you can't confront him. I am NOT saying 'don't do this', but I am definitely saying 'watch yer back, kiddo'. You have a right to expect some answers and some small security here. IF there IS some kind of relationship going on with you. (Also a question you need to ask) A decent man will respect you asking him upfront and not sneakily. He may have been hurt too, you know, and he has a child's feelings to consider also.
Reply:Wow. Tough call. Sounds like he does like you but is too shy or holding back for some reason? Is there some reason why you can't just ask him out? It is 2007. Anyhow, it sounds like it could go either way - he likes you just as a friend or maybe more. Maybe he's not sure himself. The only way you two will ever find out is if you take the chance and date for a while. I doubt your friendship would be damaged much by a few innocent dates. Sounds like you're practically dating already. Take the plunge. Take a risk and see if something comes of it.
Reply:it seems like "J" is indecisive. i think he wants to ask you out but at the same time he's kinda scared that you will reject him. who said that the man had to bethe one to ask the girl out all the time. i asked my boyfreind out when i first met him. yeah he rejected me at first but then after his whore of an ex girlfriend(yes she is a whore from what i've heard she demands sex from her boyfreinds up to ten times a day and twenty times or more a week. yes she is a whore.) dumped him for another guy, he came to me and asked if i still wanted to go out with him. since then we've been to gether for almost a year. just ask him out if he's to chicken to. it might make all the difference.
Reply:some guys are afraid to ask girls out.. i wud ask him out.. if not then most people will still be ur friendes im sure he'll be the same..





hopefully all goes well..
Reply:i think he likes you but is too shy to make the first move, maybe you should(jokingly at first) do that cheesy but time-tested move of yawning and putting your arm over his shoulders. its dorky but can be viewed as cute or a turn-on with guys (espesially with guys who also happen to be good friends.)


-good luck